Communication never really damages a situation. Quite the opposite most evidence would suggest. As children, we first learn to communicate from our parents, and possibly siblings. Evolving, each one of us learns to interact with a variety of different people in a plethora of situations. Transitioning from utter dependency and small confines to ultimately, the big wide world. Interaction and communication, or social skills to give another title, learnt by the time we become independent adults, hopefully.
Who better to teach social development than mother, father, teacher, grandparent and such forth? Apparently, according to some, such an approach registers as sheer madness. A recent visit from a health visitor became the last in a long line of professionals, associates and friends who readily pointed out the need to ‘socialise’ our children. And, how do these insightful individuals and collective believe we should socialise our children? By sending them to nursery school. Well blow me down in amazement. How on earth had we not considered such radical action previously? Allow our children to learn social skills from the very set of people [toddlers] who have no real ability in this area, and are themselves seeking daily assistance in this regard.
Perhaps the world might, and I say just might, be a little better off if most of the populace had learnt social skills from someone other than the next child who would steal their toy, and have no concept of interaction and communication with anyone other than their dearest and closest. Wars, and most adult disagreement, generally come from a lack of understanding, acceptance, and, dare I say it, communication. Therefore, the next time a leading expertise advices me to socialise our children I will politely decline in the knowledge that learning skills from someone with such abilities (we call them mum and dad) might serve them better than the teachings of a classroom full of helpless toddlers, discovering the wider world on their own terms.